Giulia Cecchettin has passed away. Since November 18th, we have known this with certainty, but any woman could have anticipated it from the announcement of her disappearance. Giulia is number 105, and despite her discovery being only 4 days ago, the count of femicides in Italy in 2023 has already risen to 106.
On the website of the Ministry of the Interior, there is a section called Voluntary Homicides and Gender-based Violence under the heading Data and Statistics. Weekly reports are made available to citizens. The frequency of these reports speaks volumes about the necessity of continuous updates, highlighting the ongoing need for information in this regard.
Giulia Cecchettin was 22 years old and was about to graduate in Biomedical Engineering. It was not difficult for every woman to identify with her, and even more so for her peers. Young women, likely users of TikTok, quickly expressed their opinions on the platform.
Celebration of the permissive boyfriend
On the notes of "What Was I Made For?" by Billie Eilish (likely because it's part of the soundtrack of the modern pop feminist manifesto film "Barbie"), many young women have shared countless reasons to love their boyfriends. "Because he lets me wear what I want, because he lets me go out with my male friends, because I can go dancing with my girlfriends", and so on.
The gratitude and celebration happen for extraordinary episodes. Seeing so many shares of this kind gives rise to the thought that the relationship between romantic partners and mutual respect may be unclear to the very young.
@marisa.morgante ti amo❤️🩹@greg ♬ What Was I Made For? [From The Motion Picture "Barbie"] - Billie Eilish
A series of videos emerged in response to what happened to Giulia, evidently to declare: "My boyfriend is not like Filippo Turetta". However, the problem arises when the power to do or say something is entrusted to the partner.
What sets apart what we see on TikTok from a news event is simply the absence of a crime.
Jealousy as a proof of love
In a world where affective education is necessary as a school subject, jealousy takes on a positive meaning. The widespread disinterest in human relationships, in the family, at home, at school and everywhere, has generated such a lack of attention that jealousy has become a sort of hint of care on the part of the other.
Also on TikTok, the young girls show their boyfriend ironically reading the decalogue of what is allowed to do. Always according to him.
@_siriaviolante_ testiamo la gelosia di kekko 😂❤️ #greenscreen #couplegoals #love #staijtmagnat #comedy #gelosia ♬ suono originale - Siria Violante🤍
"My ex used to make me hang out with my guy friends"
The audience of young men instead tells their relationship on social as a continuous manifestation of power on the partner. Also in this case, unfortunately, the trend is viral. "With your ex you could be friends with other guys? Not with me". Because it’s always up to him.
@francescoo_c_17 Conmigo no🫶🏻#perte #viral #foryou #foryoupage #fypシ ♬ sonido original - Criss✨
He is again irritated by the announcement of the partner of an upcoming dermatological visit. It is not even allowed that a doctor, for pure medical purpose, can see her naked.
@aleebiiii #greenscreen ♬ Marcia Di Radetzky - Suisse Symphony Orchestra
Giulia Cecchettin and all the other women victims of feminicide are not news stories but the result of a non-existent emotional education.
They were not less intelligent, less cunning, less fortunate, less clever.
They were (and are) the fruit of a reassuring kiss given to one’s boyfriend before going out to meet a long-time friend. They were (and are) the consequence of a laugh made too lightly to a "but will not be too short?".
Duty now? To root this mentality.
Illustration by Gloria Dozio - Acrimònia Studios
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