“Women have fewer orgasms than men when it comes to heterosexual intercourse,” thunder various scientific research. Orgasm gap! In other words, another disparity between men and women. Evidently they were not enough.
A report by Durex, a famous brand related to products of the erotic-sexual sphere, shows that women's orgasms would be 4 times less frequent than those of men, and a scientific research published in Archives of Sexual Behavior states that 95 percent of straight men surveyed reach orgasm practically all the time, while the percentage among heterosexual women drops to 65 percent.
As if that were not enough, men describe their amplexes as fulfilling with respect to reaching orgasm. While it seems to be different for women, admitting that they often have relationships that are not “satisfying.” Orgasm? A mirage? Depends!
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In the aforementioned studies, the survey asked, “When having sexual intercourse in general, how often do you reach orgasm?” But a more specific definition of what intercourse means was not provided. As is customary to define sexual intercourse by thinking only of vaginal penetration, but sexual intercourse is not just that. There is a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm, and one cannot define the former as A and the latter as B as good old Freud had done. In his studies on sexuality in the early twentieth century, the esteemed father of psychoanalysis argued that clitoral orgasm was typical of young girls while, vaginal orgasm, was achieved with maturity. A woman who failed to achieve vaginal orgasm in his view had not fully grown up and was therefore, in some sense, incomplete.
This conception that saw women as needing the penis to achieve the ultimate orgasm continues to propagate its legacies even today despite having been largely deconstructed thanks to several feminist scholars in the 1970s. So yes, taboos and prejudices still exist. It seems that it is not so obvious for women to be totally familiar with their vulva and masturbation because women continue to feel inadequate. Whose fault or whose fault? Pornography promises easy orgasms attainable on the fly, it is still being said that women's bodies are more complicated than men's, and the pressing macho culture without which straight women are nothingness is making its way across the sky worse than Batman's shadow.
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A woman's body is no more complex than a man's. If anything, of complex, women have brains. Not the private parts. So let's dispel a myth and stop thinking that the orgasm gap is due to the “difficulty” of female pleasure. In fact, we know very well that when women give themselves pleasure, the percentage of those who reach orgasm increases: with autoeroticism as many as 95 percent of women reach orgasm easily and within minutes.
As the old wise men used to say, “She who does it herself does it for three.” This then indicates that the issue has little to do with biology as much as, rather, to how in history the female orgasm has been regarded and the role played by social and cultural aspects often disinclined to clear it, explain it and treat it in the same way as the male orgasm.
How then does one close this gap? Obviously with knowledge, with education in particular better sex education that puts pleasure and bodily autonomy at the center. Starting in schools to learn about how the human body works, studying biology and analyzing sexology, the sexual sphere being a crucial part of every person's life. Another fundamental basis from which to start, with oneself and one's partner, is communication: communicating with one's body, in order to get to know it and understand, through experimentation, which parts of the body generate the most pleasure, keeping in mind that everyone is different from each other.
Illustration by Gloria Dozio - Acrimònia Studios
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